July 24th, 2017
It has been 21 years since my father took his life. I was 18 years old at the time, and it came as a real shock to us all. There was so much going on in my life with my entering my last year of high school and looking at college. I hadn’t seen the warning signs of it coming.
Sometimes we are guilty of getting caught up in our own lives, and we fail to look beyond our to-do lists and tomorrows dreams. Today I want to remind you to stop once in a while and really look at the people you love. Look at their faces and talk to them. There is nothing blissful about being unaware!
Sorrow is deep and so is depression. We can’t brush aside feelings of depression anymore. Those moments of darkness shouldn’t be taken lightly. Too many people have been lost to that darkness for us to turn a blind eye to it still. When someone says, they are depressed pay attention and take time to validate their life. The time you make to just love them and the effort of trying to help will be well spent! It is too late to do it when they are gone.
If you are fighting the darkness of depression today, I want you to know you are not alone! Many face the same battles every day. You are also loved and needed! Don’t believe the lie that your life isn’t of value. There are people who you need you and care for you. Sometimes we just can’t see that clearly when the darkness hangs over us.
My heart and my prayers are for those who are fighting depression today. As I look back and remember my father and the loss of him I also look forward to what I can do to help others who are hurting today. While it is too late to change the outcome of my father’s life, it isn’t too late to change it for someone else. If you have lost a loved one to suicide, I invite you to share your heartbreak with me. Share your personal grief and help let others who are thinking of suicide know that it is not the answer. Help me reach out to them today. Leave in the comments what you wish you could say to the person you lost.
What I wish I could tell my father is simple: I love you and I will always need you to be in my life! I can’t tell him that now because he ended his life, but I can let all the fathers who are thinking of suicide hear it. Any parent who is considering suicide I would say to you this: You are loved, and your child will always need you to be in their lives! Not a moment will pass me by that I will not wish I could share those moments with my father. Every moment of joy is bittersweet and every moment of sorrow is twice as hard.
July 24th, 2017