Finding and sharing comfort in God’s word.
2 Corinthians 1:3
Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;
But the comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whosoever I have said unto you.
It is often hard to explain to our children topics like death. The best part of knowing God is that we have promises in Christ that during times of grief gives us comfort. Let us explore how we find comfort in our faith.
The Holy Spirit comforts us by bringing God’s Word to our minds. Scriptures like the ones above are a wonderful source of comfort and healing. This is why having a regular Bible Study is of great importance. The more of God’s word you know the more you have to draw on in times of need.
Death, as I have mentioned, is a hard subject for children and adults alike. You should never try to hide death from your children. If a pet or a loved one is dying you should take the time to explain that death Is not something to fear.
Start by telling your children about how in Christ we can look forward to a new life in Heaven with God. Tell them that everyone and everything dies but for those who believe in Christ as their savior there is nothing to be afraid of when that time comes.
This is not to say that we all will choose Christ and except salvation, but that we all have a chance to do so. Make it clear that we all have a choice to make before we die and that make sure to take time to pray with your child at this point.
Let your child know that God does care and desires them to pray to him. Even if it is a pet let the child know they can talk to God about how they feel and ask him to do what is best for their beloved pet. If the pet does die then have a small funeral. Let the child read a scripture over it and say goodbye.
If it is a loved one who dies do your best to make a way for the child to say goodbye. It is not necessary for the child to be at the funeral home through the whole services but do make a time for the child to say goodbye.
You should also have a small thing the child can do to help comfort others who are grieving. During a loved one’s death children often feel helpless. This can be dealt with by giving them an activity to do that expresses their grief and also comforts others. Here are few things a child can help with: Holding the box of tissues and giving them to those who need one, make a simple food item such as sandwiches or a fruit dish like grapes and apples, or help the child make a small flower arrangement of their own to place on the grave.
Make time to talk with the child before they go to the funeral home. Tell them what they will see and why we do some things such as send flowers and so on. This time together will help the child feel more confident and also calm any fears they have.
This is the best way to handle any situation that comes up. Be open and honest. Let the child ask questions and do your best to give simple easy to understand answers to each question. You can deal with many topics with this method…everything from death to bullying. Teach your child what to do in difficult situations before they arise. You can use role play to help the child voice their responses to each situation.
What can you do to be there for your child? Start by making time to just listen. You can volunteer at school and church. You can role play with your child and let them practice their responses on you. Make time to read God’s word together and to pray. These are just a few things you can do!
Remember that your child or children will learn more from your example than from anything else. If you want to teach your child about the comfort we have in Christ then first learn the scriptures on comfort yourself and apply them to your life! As they see you drawing on the power of God’s word then they too shall be able to draw upon it and whether any storm that life brings their way!